“Understand that the right to choose your own path is a sacred privilege. Use it. Dwell in possibility.” – Oprah.
If I were to ask you right now if you believe that you are treading down the right path, would you be able to answer confidently? Or is this a question that you’ve never even pondered before? “The right path?” you laugh “Is there such a thing, I’m just doing what I can to get through the day!” But in truth, this thought has crossed the mind of every individual at some point, whether you chose to acknowledge the thought, or pushed it aside. Ultimately, we want to be headed somewhere in our lives. We want to know that the daily ‘grind’, our actions, our beliefs, our stories; they stand for something. And that one day, we will arrive at a point in time where we can say to ourselves “This is it, this is where I was heading.” We get to choose where we are heading. Sure life can throw in some obstables, as we know, uncertainty is the only certainty in life. But we are in charge of our actions, our decisions, our desires, and our direction. When you find yourself at a destination, you’ll hope that the path you walked along was the right one, beckoning you to where you wanted to be. Alternatively, you may have wondered too far down the wrong path, without re-direction along the way, and ended up in the last place you desired to be.
Often we don’t know what path we want to walk down, because we feel directionless. A person that feels directionless has more often than not neglected to find their purpose. When you find something that you are deeply passionate about, whether that be sport, teaching, music, creating, photography, writing, singing, lifting weights, helping others, the list goes on; you than have a pretty clear hint at what it is that you should be pursuing. When we pursue or passions, we are headed down the right path. We have a choice, always, where we walk. But the question still begs; “I’m walking, but how do I know if I’m heading in the right direction?”
Here are 10 little ‘nudges‘ that you are on the right path.
- You are in the ‘Flow”
You are lit-up, excited and motivated. Though a sense of fear lurks in the background, your heightened energy squashes it. You are filled with passion. You leap out of bed in the morning. Ideas fly at you from all directions. You can see possibilities, you can see potential. You are formulating or have already created clear plans and visions, and you are ready to dive into them. - You Lose Track of Time
When you are in the flow, time disappears. You are so engrossed in what you are doing that you lose all sense of time. Minutes and hours pass, in what feels like seconds. You aren’t painstakingly watching the clock. It is easy to lose whole hours when you are in the flow, and time never feels wasted. - You Feel Tired, But Not “Over-Worked”
There is a clear distinction you feel between being exhausted, and being tired but fulfilled. Even if you have a big workload, you don’t feel overwhelmed in a negative sense. Your large workload fuels your drive, rather than wearing you down. - You Are Acting In Alignment With Your Values and Beliefs
Your purpose or passion does not challenge your core values or beliefs in any way. You are taking action in a way that aligns with your goals, that align with your values and beliefs, and your sense of identity. When you are in alignment, you seem to attract all of the right people, situations and circumstances. Everything is lining up for you. - You Attract Supportive Relationships
From a place of alignment, the Law of Attraction is working to bring all of the things you want and need into your reality. This is felt strongly in your friendship circles. You are attracting the company of like minded people that are uplifting and supportive of you. These are people that cheer you on, celebrate you’re wins with you, and that have a similar set of values as you. - You Have The Will To Overcome Obstacles
When issues arise, they don’t defeat you. You have a drive and a confidence in you that assures you that your passion and purpose is worth fighting for, and you will do whatever it takes to overcome obstacles. Often you come out better for the experience. - You No Longer Seek Validation or Approval From Others
You are doing your own thing. You are only concerned about doing your own thing. You don’t care what others are doing or not doing, you are solely focused on your own path. The criticism of others no longer gets to you, as you recognise that everyone is unique and that’s what makes life diverse. The only approval you seek is that of your own. - Your Health Is Improved
When you are in the flow, focused on the things that light you up, you tend to not only lower your levels of ‘bad’ stress, such as cortisol, but you also tend to take better care of yourself through your habits and actions. You feel happier, therefore you rely less on junk food for that dopamine hit. You are full of energy, so you are more likely to go for that afternoon walk. You feel confident, in turn reducing your anxiety; which in turn reduces your blood pressure, and sends your body into a more relaxed state. - You Feel Inspired, Rather Than Jealous
When you see others treading the same path as yours, you feel inspired and motivated. You are not only happy for these people, but you start seeing them as mentors, mimicking their routines and behaviours as they exhibit the same goals values and passion as your own. You seek guidance and mentorship rather than feeling inadequate and bitter. - You Simply Have a “Gut Feeling”
That knowing. That feeling in your Being. You know ‘know‘. Call it intuition. Our body has a way of communicating with us that we cannot understand in any other description other than that of a sense of deep knowing and assurance. You just ‘know’ with every part of you, that this is the path to pursue. We all have an inner guidance system, and if you feel called to follow it, listen.
When we doubt ourselves, we immediately shut down and dismiss our potential. When questioning our path, we need to look within ourselves for answers. Only you will know what the right path is for you. What is right for one, may not be right for you. It is up to you; not your friends, your family, your peers, colleagues, religious institutions or societal expectations. The world needs your uniqueness. Don’t let fear stop you from pursuing your passion. Remember, if it is never started, it will never be finished. Don’t live with regrets. Find your purpose, and walk the path with it.